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Against the cult of the pussy eaters

As a thoroughly modern straight woman, I understand the political allure of demanding that a man go down on me. To insist on sexual pleasure—empowering! To tell a man to put his face in my ostensibly shameful genitals—transgressive! The vision of a woman, at long last, being the one to authoritatively order a man to…

The juicy history of squirting

Ginger first created “a small but noticeable puddle” with her orgasm when she was 19, while masturbating alone using her hand. A few years before, in the late 1990s, she’d used her family’s computer to search AOL about squirting after she heard a rumor that one of her high school classmates “soaked a boyfriend’s arm…

In defense of bad sex

There have been times when a guy was everything I thought I wanted—he had a great body, he was friendly and kind, he seemed as attracted to me as I was to him—and yet our sex was bad. Maybe he came too quickly or I was distracted by something work-related and couldn’t enjoy what was happening. Maybe I tried…